Girls.
You say you don’t understand them, well, I will shed some light on the subject.
1 – DO NOT lead us on. Don’t flirt with us if you’re not planning on taking it any further. If you like us, let us know. If you don’t, don’t act like it.
2 – We need to know we’re loved. Let us know from time to time. It can be something simple, like sending a post card, even if we live right next door. Or just dropping a text sayin’ “hey, how are you?”. It lets us know you’re thinking about us, and thus, that you care.
3 – All that cutesy boyfriend stuff, yes, you need to do it. It’s romantic and we absolutely love it and it makes our friends ever so jealous because we have such a sweet boyfriend.
4 – Remember details. It may seem stupid to you, but it’s really important to us. Eye color, Perfume, Shampoo, Favorite Gum, Candy bar, Board Game, Pizza, Movie, Soda, Restaurant. It’s another thing that shows us you care and are genuinely invested into our lives.
5 – This sounds cliche, but do it. You really want to go for the gold? Look into her eyes and tell her she’s beautiful. Not sexy or hot or anything like that (those have a time an place, but when in doubt, gorgeous or beautiful are the key words here).
6 – Be a gentleman. This one can be tricky. Most girls love having the door opened for them, all that stuff that you were taught when you were little. I knew a guy that, honestly, was pretty ‘average’, but he was the perfect gentleman, and guess what? Girls were swooning. You will run into the occasional few that don’t want to be a lady and therefore will refuse such chivalrous behavior, but they’re quite rare.
7 – We understand you about as much as you understand us, so be patient. We want to learn, so talk to us about it.
8 – Speaking of talking, sometimes we want to do that. We’re girls. We’ve been taught not to express our emotions in a physical manner, but to talk it out. That’s what our girlfriends our for… but every once in a while, you’ll have to put up with it. Sorry. Brownie points for you if you can put up with it!
9 – If your interested, please, let us know. Make the first move. You’re the guy, that’s how it’s supposed to be. You have to get the ball rolling. You might get turned down, but, really tell me the absolute worst that could happen. It’s as awkward for us as it is for you!
